So if you are giving yourself a hard time, who do you want to be?
I did a video talking about life Coaching Video for my Summer Project programme about Changing Your image because I feel so much better now I have addressed my insecurities by thinking What do I want to be? So go through what is making you unhappy.
Do you compare yourself to others?
There was a time where I felt my height (small) when out drinking with some work colleagues and I wanted to be invisible. I was very uncomfortable in my own skin.
So I then decided to change my image, I decided I had enough of feeling unhappy with myself and I began going to the gym and dressed that made me feel like a woman and made an effort. I think working in corporate setting helped, at Butlins I would dress up to go out after I finished my last shift of the day and just being feminine.
I like to have clothes that match, I like to wear dresses and want to wear more and putting on make up some days. I look after my body but I don't restrict myself and focusing on what my body needs has helped and listening to others who have had insecurities and how they addressed to make them feel better.
Mel Robbins wrote the High Five Habit due to criticising how she looked, looking at her reflection and so you can still be a billionaire and still not happy with yourself.
Do you want to spend money? I feel if you want to have surgery than that is personal choice. A girl I knew working in a call Centre got her boobs done. It was not cheap but she hated being flat chested and she was a pretty and I envied her, but she felt insecure about her breasts and she seemed to feel happy about it, then she veneers, she was in so much pain. I have been thinking about getting a reduction, meaning my breast but wonder, will I regret it later? Am I willing to part with money to change my breasts? NO and have accepted them now and have been given compliments, but you can if you have big boobs get back ache and so if it becomes a real issue then I'd think about it a reduction but not to change my image.
I created some Self development training if you'd like to check it out: Self Development Training Video 1 Video 2 For Self Development Training Being Organised and Last video of my self Development training/structuring your life.
So sit down and go through when did it begin the feelings you have about your body and insecurity?
Was someone feeling insecure about themselves?
I was bullied and called fat and it hit me hard. Now I see it that it wasn't about me it was with themselves. When people unkind its often their way of feeling good about themselves, by attacking others.
YOU JUST WANT TO A BREAK FROM THAT INNER CRITIC.
So who do you want to be? What is the vision you have of yourself? What has influenced you? Asking these questions can really help.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
