Does Size really matter when it comes to health and self image?

Watching the women's rugby 6th Nations, Scotland vs England, I was chatting with my mum and step dad about the size of some of the players. Not disrespecting them, but that if you didn't know that they were rugby players you would think they'd be classed as overweight? And does size really matter?

When it comes to rugby you have to be strong and bulky to play rugby, and this is for men and women. Think about athletes who do the Shock put or Hammer, they are bulky and not because they are over weight, but because they need to be a certain size for strength because of the demand of these sports on the body. 

It all down to lifestyle. If you eat 8 donuts a day then this will effect the body and lead to being unhealthy. It is all about what your body needs and listening to it, and so if you worry about your size then make a list of what you want your lifestyle to look like. 

I am still growing and not always eating super healthy, but I don't believe in depriving yourself. For me it is balance, working on my food habits and gaining control over it again. I have fallen off the wagon, but got back up again and now I do make sure I eat food and vegetables rather than crisps and chocolate. This helps me to feel good about my body and my self. I want to eliminate my feelings I get when eating bad food by choosing food that is nutritious, but will have a take away occasionally, and not binging. 

This has been one of my biggest flours.

Looking after the body is important and being able to accept yourself can take a long time, and noones life is perfect, its what makes you happy and be able to look in the mirror rather than avoid looking at yourself. 

I remember watching Trinny and Susannah and would show how to dress for your size and names of different sizes and this helped me a lot, and that no matter your size you can still be super fit and that it is just a frame, not your total whole being.

So look at yourself and be proud of who you are and there is more to a person than just their size.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X 

Wanting to be like somebody else

At school, there was a girl called Sherie. I think I have shared this before, and she was a beautiful girl and after she had broken her heart over her mum leaving school, on her first day, she then became, the girl you wanted to hang around with.

She was admired by a lot of the kids in school, that we all started to dress like her, have long hair and when Sarah Ferguson became a princess and would see her in magazines, wearing bows, we would have bows in our hair. There was a girl called Sarah Jane who started my school and felt that because her name was Sarah, she had more rights of wearing a bow, than we were.

My style icon is Jennifer Aniston, and wanting to have her hair colour and style.

It is okay to admire other people, and by doing that it can help you to make changes, like building a wardrobe that you love and actually spending time to help the outside, to build the inside of yourself. You will never be that person as they are their own, but it is good to have a style icon and interpret your style with theirs and go through what suits you, and make trying different outfits, and have fun with it.

I remember as a kid we would be outside wearing our mums high heels, with our pretend push chairs and be set upon by a kid name Stuart, who we sent packing and would pretend we were busy mums. 

When I was a kid I loved the a band called Bucks Fizz and loved Jay Aston, cause she was so stylish, not saying Cheryl wasn't, but she stood out for me, and I would imagine being Jay when I'd listen to their songs and would envision that, that was me. Now listening to her interviews, when they first started out, she thought Cheryl was the prettiest, which surprised me. So just because someone looks confident, look floorless doesn't mean that they are confident, and they are human beings too, and I have forgotten that. 

I like the fact Cheryl and Jay dressed differently, because you need to have your identity, same with the Spice girls and yet Melanie B had an eating disorder along with Geri Halliwell. 

We can put so much pressure on ourselves and feel we have to dress like someone else if not, we feel unworthy of being in this world and that if you dress like someone else your gonna naturally feel confident, but that is not the case. So admire, but remember that a persons appearance doesn't always match their true feelings, but we can learn from their insecurities and how we can change how we feel when we see ourselves in the mirror. Be proud of being you. Find out what works for you and release the pressure of meeting other peoples opinion of you, and get to grips of who you are. What is unique about you? Everyone I believe is unique and be proud of that.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X