Working on my Confidence/Being kind to yourself

Hello and welcome! So this is the first of my Google blog posts I like to do each week and in this blog I am talking about Working on my confidence/Being Kind to yourself and I have even created a Youtube video. See Below:

Please do not think that I am in anyway using my low self esteem to promote my blogs, because that is not my intention it is to share my experiences and to help you see that if you too have low self esteem like I have, there are ways that can help you, but I do get that my advice is not for everyone. 

I find with confidence that it can be something that can drive you forward once you address the inner critic and by making changes, which are everlasting by days where you take care of yourself aswell as other people in your life, and do feel good activities, if you like to declutter, cook, read or like me writing.

I also use fitness too, and if I find that I have a lot of my mind to clear going for a brisk walk can do the trick, listening to good easy music and I have even and easy listening playlist too. See link here:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0AyektQNGDF-5OzYS9zulWwUE1XHPlIS

I have also create more life coaching videos too, and my recent one is about Victimisation which can course yourself to not be confident and that everything you do is being judged and held against you: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Afbd3LblfMQ&list=PL0AyektQNGDFmE8QBKFktqKMwZ2bswZoc

Confidence for me is "Learning to love yourself", "give myself credit and no more self doubting" or "Having more purpose in my life, by having good positive habits". 

It is not something that happens overnight and can take years. Well in my case but take or look back on photos and write down what you were feeling and talking about it, and your feelings can help with, letting go of the past that may be effecting your confidence still and taking yourself away and be in a place literally that makes you feel it is good to be you and good to be alive.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

P.S: All my blog posts and videos can be found on my network site:

https://carriesblognetwork.squarespace.com 

Not allowing insecurities to effect your children

Being a child who lacked a lot of confidence I am very well aware now as a parent that my insecurities I have about myself can easily transfer to my son and other children I want to have, as I want them to be super confident and have a drive that they are capable of doing whatever they want, and I am never going to stop them, because everyone deserves a life they wish for and a future that is out of this world. 

I want to be a supporter for all of my children and let them be who they want to be. I see my role as a guardian, support network and an open door to their hearts and help them should they have any worries and know without hesitation they can come to me for support and be a shoulder to cry on and be a carrier for their hearts. 

I have always been super paranoid about my weight and about how I come across and how I impact people and I am so glad that through my blogs and through my other work I have done as got me in touch with so many people who have helped me with seeing that I have no need to be unconfient. Everyone can be what they want and I will never take away my children's belief in wanting to make something that can be seen as unreachable and I want them to have a life where they can travel and where they can have a bunch of friends and one day a family of their own. 

I try not to dwell too much on my self criticism I often have, and have learned to fight against it and now can say that I am more happier with myself and more sure of myself. Last year and the year before were so tough that I am happy to still be alive and not made me sink but swim and grow further.

Kids can easily pick up when you are down and can sense when your anxious and worried too, and this can make them feel vulnerable and insecure. My son has had separation anxiety because at one point he kept wanting to sleep in my bed with me, I just don't always feel safe in doing this, but would give in as I could see that he was fearful of sleeping away from me and so let him sleep without needing to feel that type of fear. 

He was purposely at one point wetting the bed so I would change his bedding but looking at it now, it was because he would have nightmares and didn't want to be on his own. If a kid lashes out or wets the bed, try not to get cross as they often do this to communicate that they are worried about something and need your reasurrance and love. 

So I am very well aware of when I think low of myself as it does sneak in, I have a way of controlling it and I just will put on a bit of make up if it will make it better but don't want to be self obssessed which when you feel low of yourself, you can often feel. 

Kids want you to be you and I would have sometime just talking with them and open up to them so they will open up for you. 

If you don't ask a kid how they feel they won't often tell you, but their actions can speak out and can be a sign that they are feeling unhappy because they have sensed that you are.

Manhy thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

P.S: All my blog posts are added to my network site, which is:

https://carriesblognetwork.squarespace.com