Being a child who lacked a lot of confidence I am very well aware now as a parent that my insecurities I have about myself can easily transfer to my son and other children I want to have, as I want them to be super confident and have a drive that they are capable of doing whatever they want, and I am never going to stop them, because everyone deserves a life they wish for and a future that is out of this world.
I want to be a supporter for all of my children and let them be who they want to be. I see my role as a guardian, support network and an open door to their hearts and help them should they have any worries and know without hesitation they can come to me for support and be a shoulder to cry on and be a carrier for their hearts.
I have always been super paranoid about my weight and about how I come across and how I impact people and I am so glad that through my blogs and through my other work I have done as got me in touch with so many people who have helped me with seeing that I have no need to be unconfient. Everyone can be what they want and I will never take away my children's belief in wanting to make something that can be seen as unreachable and I want them to have a life where they can travel and where they can have a bunch of friends and one day a family of their own.
I try not to dwell too much on my self criticism I often have, and have learned to fight against it and now can say that I am more happier with myself and more sure of myself. Last year and the year before were so tough that I am happy to still be alive and not made me sink but swim and grow further.
Kids can easily pick up when you are down and can sense when your anxious and worried too, and this can make them feel vulnerable and insecure. My son has had separation anxiety because at one point he kept wanting to sleep in my bed with me, I just don't always feel safe in doing this, but would give in as I could see that he was fearful of sleeping away from me and so let him sleep without needing to feel that type of fear.
He was purposely at one point wetting the bed so I would change his bedding but looking at it now, it was because he would have nightmares and didn't want to be on his own. If a kid lashes out or wets the bed, try not to get cross as they often do this to communicate that they are worried about something and need your reasurrance and love.
So I am very well aware of when I think low of myself as it does sneak in, I have a way of controlling it and I just will put on a bit of make up if it will make it better but don't want to be self obssessed which when you feel low of yourself, you can often feel.
Kids want you to be you and I would have sometime just talking with them and open up to them so they will open up for you.
If you don't ask a kid how they feel they won't often tell you, but their actions can speak out and can be a sign that they are feeling unhappy because they have sensed that you are.
Manhy thanks for reading,
Carrie L.M X
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