Is there things in your life that effects your confidence, like at work and you see it piling up, and you just not sure what to do with and worried about asking?
There were times in my working life where I was like that, and so I would ask for further training, I would make it clear that I had no idea as to what I was doing.
Often people that have been in jobs for a long time forget that they were a novice themselves once upon a time go, and so if they help but look unhappy because you've asked for help, then that is a problem they need to sort out. and it is important to have an answer rather than wait until they told you, you did something wrong.
So giving up having to tip toe around people who don't want to help you, when its their job to so, don't let it bother you and ask. It's better to make sure rather than assuming, and just keep note of what they tell you that will help you in your job, when you are not sure.
Dieting, where do we begin?
I have been on diet, when looking back, from childhood as I was a fussy eater but I was always conscious of my size. I wasn't ever overly heavy in weight, or anything, no disrespect to those that are, I just had what they would call "Puppy fat" and felt like there was nothing good about myself at one time, and so when I became a teenager I was more conscious of my size and bothered by the way I looked and so tried so many times to lose weight, but now I am happy to say, dealing with it better, and looking at myself in a different light, which is "I ain't so bad after all", but it has taken 40 years on, for me to see it that way. I look is fine, and I need to be respectful to myself, as I do have good traits, and not be against myself. I am lucky to have what I have in my life, and it could be worse.
Dieting is so different now and has seen as negative, because of quick fix ideas on losing weight, and it really about moderation.
I food did effect my confidence, and felt that it was source of all evil at one time, but I began educating myself with books and made a difference to having a good diet. I today, felt I am eating too much chocolate so bought myself a healthy yogurt for tonight and to make better choices.
Confidence comes with in, and we often so focused on the outside instead of listening to the inside of our bodies.
Getting fit and exercising, can be a burden rather than enjoyable, does it effect confidence?
It can do if you obsess over it. just like diet and begin to count every calorie, we can start to over train and doing to much that your body can't handle it. For me exercise is important, and that I do it when I feel I want to, and if I don't want to do any I don't.
Being a mother I do a lot of playing football as my son is full of energy.
It is all about getting in touch with your body, and what it wants, and that again is the same as dieting.
Noone wants to feel like crap and I feel if you do it again moderately it can be beneficial. Yet if you begin to the point you can't walk the next day, it can take over the enjoyment and it has to be something you know you are going to love to do, and not dread it.
When we see others exercise, we instantly compare ourselves. We it can reduce the endorphins rather than increase, so don't pressure, but do it when you have that burst to do some, do it and keep note of it. Set goals for yourself but what your body can handle.
Jealousy and begrudging?
Often when we see friends doing well for themselves and we are still stuck in a job we hate, for an example, feel jealous and feel we have nothing to offer and begin to belittle ourselves that we can lash out when it isn't their thought, but is a problem your having not them.
Do we want to see people we care about do badly? Of course we don't and their is space for everyone to succeed, and is wasted energy and if it is getting you down then, it is time to make changes. That is keep a journal and write down why they have achieved so much, and you haven't.
Start setting plans for yourself and take yourself out. Learn a skill you have been wanting to do, and take the plunge to do it.
Sitting within four walls all of the time, is not going to help you. Be supportive of your friends and learn from them, and be inspired by others doing well. We can often start to see fault because it makes us feel better than to admire someone.
We all have flours that can effect our confidence so taking steps to make yourself better, like going for a job you really want and not because they've offered a job to you, as it is "Better than nothing", and follow your dreams.
Being happy takes a lot for some people and I know that, because I have been there, but do you want those things to linger or deal with head on? I know what I would choose.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
