Having Christmas Blues, how to deal with them and still seeing friends and family through another Lockdown

Hello and welcome! I really hope you had a good Chrismas, it is Boxing Day which is one of my Nans, my Nanny Rose birthday today, and this time 40 years ago we would go around to her flat she shared with my Grandad Jack to celebrate it and have Christmas Dinner there.

It is today or the day after where we can get the Christmas Blues, because all that planning and preparation makes us excited and then, its like a blink of an eye and gone until the following year.

I always got the Christmas Blues and I often suffered with SAD in winter time, which is Seasonal Affective Disorder, but it didn't have a name when I was a kid and just thought I had the hump because it meant going indoors earlier than the summer and going to bed early.

If you do suffer with SAD then you can get a Lumie Lamp which helps you wake up naturally during the winter and can make a difference. I was given one free when I worked for a manufacturer who made these, but I gave it away. I would buy one of these for the Winter time as it they can do wonders as I find this time of year your body clock can be all over the place.

Having Christmas blues is normal and can effect your confidence in the fact you feel you have nothing more to look forward. Being in Lockdown it is difficult to know what to do, but there are plenty of things. You can still see friends but limit it at the moment, and have some of your girl friends and have pamper evening where you watch a chick flick, paint each other nails and have a hair cut or dyed if someone there can cut hair and colour it for you.

Being in Lockdown does not mean we can't still have a life. The Queen god bless her is still going to celebrate with her family and I hope that I get to one day meet her Royal Highness again, as it has been a long time since I used to see her at Bolton Gardens with her sister Margarette as they were very close and always like a twosome. Where the Queen went so did Margarette. Plus the Queen Mother who was so down to earth you sometimes forgot she was the Queen mum. 

The other thing you can do is meet someone in the park, as a few are still open or just go for leisurely stroll around your home town as there will still be supermarkets open and just having a short catch up with them can do us wonders. We as people need socialising so you can still do it, even using Zoom or Face time, just being able to interact with people still, is so good for our wellbeing and should not allow Lockdown to stop us. 

I hope, like many that the Lockdown shifts soon so we can have some normality again and have a huge amount of people in one place again, as I an dying to see a Football match again. It has been a hard year and can't wait to see the back of it. 

I have a new love in my life that has helped me through this year and family that I have seen on the TV but forgot that I had met them years ago, and have seen my go from a complete state to someone who fought tooth and nail some days and still here to tell the tale of my last year's nightmare. 

Christmas should not be about you fighting for your life but about enjoying the people celebrating with you and taking in the day. I want my son and daughter, one day to have good memories like I did of Christmas time. That should not be taken away from them, and have them open more presents after Christnas too, so it is not over for them to quickly. 

So I hope you all have a good Boxing Day and I will see you in next weeks post where we will be in a new year. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie (L.M) X

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Getting Confident again for a New Year Ahead 2021

Hello and welcome to my blog post. Here I talk about Building Self Confidence and certain topics that have had an effect on me, being someone who struggled with Self Confidence, through out her life. 

I lost a lot of my confidence this year, as I really want to show my face on camera again to do more Youtube Videos, but got so upset because I felt like I just couldn't do it. 

I want to film for Youtube and have done a few different types of content for my Youtube channel, but I want people to see me again. 

Here is a link to my Youtube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/user/cazzacheers1

I am going to get into it again, as I tell myself, and keep thinking no I'll do it next year.  

I do love filming but staying on track I find to be toughest thing about creating Youtube videos. I can get behind on uploading my videos, and have done so and then lost my Mojo to put my face on camera. 

The Key goal I have for next year is to get my confidence back to show my face on camera, as rumour has it, I may be on TV soon, so watch this space. And no it won't be on crime watch, but some really good programmes on TV. I love doing what I do as a blog writer and writing my books which I hope to turn into a TV series also. Writing has kept me going this year, and would not live without it.

I write practically every day and going to continue to do so. I am Getting Confident for a New Year Ahead for 2021 already and forget this year. I have already set out my writing plan for my books for next year. I am working on two already and want these to be done by the end of this year. 

I want to have a lot of things to look forward to, and be excited for a new year for a change. Often I have gotten upset of the new year, as felt like some years I haven't accomplished anything. 

This year has felt like 4 years together, but I think 2021 will go so quickly being that there is a lot of things on the horizon for me, and want a change and have a brand new beginning. 

I have already set out my goals for next year. I do this way before the end of the year, as I like to set out a plan for each year. 

I want to keep evolving and have another Online course that I have been putting together, so I will let you know once this is up. 

I want to in the New Year go outside my comfort zone a lot, and take on new challenges. I want to meet people I have not seen in years, and avoid old companions because they didn't care for me at all, and pretended to be my friend.

Having friends take the piss out of my hard work that I put my heart into disheartening, and made me see that they are just selfish and just want to use me rather then treasure my friendship. 

When I become friends with people I am a friend for life and not just for 5 minutes. They are the ones who sit by you when you are down and help you through tough times. 

Jealousy has been a keyword this year, and it is not a good trait to have and has caused me some harm just because I am working for myself now and is my own work, noone elses. 

So I hope you have a Wonderful Christmas and will blog next week on Christmas day. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie (L.M) X

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Not Feeling Good At Christmas

 

A lack of feeling unconfident can happen at any time, and especially at Christmas at parties whether it is work related or family. 

I am not going to any this year, but I am going to do as many things I enjoy as possible at that is one way of helping you to ignore your lack of confidence for a bit, by focusing on the things you love. 

Noone has the right to tell you how to live your life, not even your parents, as we don't belong to them as they are the holders and are meant to be guardians to help build on our personalities and guide us to be happy, that is what God had intended, not to be told what to do. 

There is a man out there that wants to look after me and love me out of this world, and yes it is someone well known, and there are family that do care and do want me to have a happier life. I want a place of my own, more children and have a bloody good end of 2020, and to feel good about myself for a change.

I do want to start a fresh and at Christmas that is what I think about. I am not fussed about getting materialistic items, even though it is nice for those who do so, but this year I want to be rid of those demons who still haunt me, like so many and live on making myself and others who do love me, have a happy ending each time, no matter how much there are others that want to make it tough. 

I would love to buy my mum a place in Spain one day, the Car she has always wanted and give her the life she wants to have, so she can retire when she chooses to, and finally be free of carrying such a workload and retire peacefully,

I am not here to save lives but honour those who do look at for me and make sure that I am safe to help make them safe too. Christmas can be tough and can bring out all those insecurities. Chrismas lunch is lovely but how many cut down on their eating before they do this? I am not. My appetite has changed and lost weight but was not intending to do because Christmas, its something I always think about. 

Who puts these worries on to us?

I am and can see that a new thought coming, when I say this, can we just enjoy Christmas without worrying about calories? I bet God who invented Chritmas along with Santa did carry Bathroom Scales around with them, so why do we focus on that?

I am going to scrap all that, and just focus on getting fit again. Dressing in a way that helps build my confidence and stay strong as I can.

Here is a song that says just that by Cyndi Lauper:

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X 

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