At school there was a girl called Sherie who I have written about in my book The Peabody Years, because she was so pretty and popular, that I wished I could be just like her and would imagine it too.
I have always found it tough since I was a kid to fit in, but now I am 41 years of age my outlook on myself image compared to back then has changed dramatically.
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Don't get me wrong I still get those days where I avoid a mirror of any shape or form. I still am hesitate at times when it comes to trying on clothes in a public fitting room, but I have learned to love myself more and appreciate what I do have and what I do like.
Excepting who you are is important especially being a mum now, I don't want my son to feel those emotions about himself like I have done, and I want him to thrive. So I am conscious about my self image, so my insecurities don't rub off on to him.
The one book I would recommend to read about building confidence is a book by Paul McKenna, called,
It will help you get out of a rut and even if you are in lockdown you can still follow the book and its exercises..
I found it super helpful and I have even got the Paul McKenna book,
- If you need financial support which is not helping your confidence then this book is great to follow.
- Meditation is also good way of feeling good about yourself, along with exercise and eating a lot healthier.
- Practice mindfulness, which is noticing everything around you whilst you breath in through the nose out through the mouth.
Yes you can still splurge now and again, but as I see it a treat is a treat and not something you need to have everyday. You know within yourself that if you eat 12 Mars Bars in one go, you ain't gonna feel happy, but regret. As soon as we eat fatty foods and processed foods the more we crave them and feel we need them, which in turn destroys your confidence because you are now paranoid about your weight.
I see it as unnecessary stress.
You can easily workout at home, I have done and I am going to start doing some exercises today even if it is for 5 to 10 minutes or going for a walk. I have been self isolating at my mum's for a bit now, and my marriage has broken down, so things have changed, but I feel new positive outcomes on the horizon.
I can look at myself in the mirror and feel like "Yes I feel good today" And that to me is a stepping stone.
Tony Robbins does videos about Instant Confidence, check out his video linked below:
Building confidence about your self image, is to remember that noone is perfect and many images on magazines have been airbrushed and edited in a way that they look good, but it has taken make up and hair done professionally for them to look glamorous on the front cover.
We can be unkind to ourselves and ridicule every each of our body.
- Practice gratitude as this helps get in touch with the positive side of the brain and go through what you are thankful for. If it is self image, then say "I am grateful for my eyes and ears" for example, because there are people who can't hear or see, and we should feel grateful for these senses.
- Create a vision board of what you would look like and set a budget, as it could be the jumper is too big or jeans for example not suiting your body type, so create an ideal you, and think carefully about this image you see in front you .
- Are they super confident?
- How are they standing?
- What are they wearing?
- How are they speaking?
- Go through your wardrobe and have your own fashion show and put outfits already together and watch repeats of Gok Won programme How To Look Good Naked: https://www.youtube.com/user/lookgoodnaked This is really great for inspiration.
In any case beauty is within, they can be the most beautiful looking person in the world but not necessarily a nice person.
So don't fret over the way you look and have fun with putting make up on, painting your nails or dressing up for a change if you are going out.
I will post more very soon....
Many thanks for reading,