Dealing with negative people

Have you ever come across those people who because they've had a pissed off day, tried to take you down with them?

They can make you become someone who self sabotages like they do, because they are holding themselves back or even bullying you, which I have experienced first hand, by putting you down making snide comments towards you or shouting at you, humiliating you in front of others.

Dealing with negative people, is to not let them detonate the negative within you and to do that be nice to them, keep smiling and if they get unbearable then try to stay clear of them until they see sense that this is not a good way to behave or even cut them out of your life for good.

Be clear to them that they aren't going to spoil your day and you are never going to give up being happy because of them. If they want to be unkind and cruel let them, just try not to entertain them in anyway. Yes fight back if they do get physical and out of control, you have after all the right to speak out, but don't allow them to drag you down.

They could be going through personal issues themselves, so try not to get personal or into a slagging match, as sometimes they are often after a certain reaction from you, a bit like when a kid has a tantrum, usually do with something else and not be about you, you just happen to be there.

These type of people can be jealous and using their own insecurities to sabotage you. Not your problem its theirs.

Have boundaries, make it clear that they are starting to over step the mark and that it is time to tighten their lip otherwise all the above will presume.

Learn from them, sometimes those that are in charge of a business can sometimes not be really a good leader because they have become a manager or a business owner without the knowledge of how to actually manage people correctly, they assume due to often from misleading management that is a way to have people do what you want them to do, but not necessarily mean it should be done in that way.

Try to take it on the chin and try to help them see the good side of things, never say "Pull yourself together" or "Get a grip" because from my own experience, it can cause an eruption and make them ten times worse.

At the moment due to the Coronovirus we should be doing all we can to bring people together not against and so lets do that for those who work for the NHS and other services we need at this time, because they are people who teach us to thrive.

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X