Living a more productive life to help build our confidence

We all need a bit of TLC at times and time to reboot our energy levels, I say as I look at my bed that hasn't been made yet. 

So the next job I will be doing after I write this blog is make my bed, as I find it does set up my day better when I do.

I have already had my shower and got dressed, well I didn't fancy doing the school run in my Pajamas, so I kind of had to. I did set my alarm for 7am but for some unknown reason it keeps being stopped so it didn't go off.

Nevertheless I still had 30 minutes or so to get ready, and even managed to grab some breakfast, whilst my son was being uncooperative this morning, such is life.

My mum and I had an argument this morning so didn't start off well, but I am still determined to have a productive life, as I like to do most days. That still means making sure I give myself some time  doing the thing I love which is writing and writing my blog posts.

Being productive doesn't mean doing twenty jobs at once it means just spreading your tasks throughout the day when you have enough time to do the things you need and want to get done, plus spending time entertaining your children, if you have kids that is.

Children as we all know can take up a lot of your time so it is means being somewhat organized and being productive so they have some mum time aswell, and when things do go to plan you do feel somewhat confident in yourself.

We all have things to do so let's just get through today so we can enjoy the weekend upon us.

Please stay safe and many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Fathers and Sons

Hello and welcome to another Building Self Confidence blog. 

This week I am talking about Fathers and Sons, seeing that it is Fathers Day this weekend and some of us won't be lucky enough to see our dads due to lockdown or like mine, my dad has passed away a couple of years ago.

I do miss my dad loads and he was the one who did build up my confidence when after one dancing presentation evening, my dad actually said to me out loud that "He was proud of me" and I remember being taken aback because of this.

Parents, which I am one now, can surprise you at times and say things out of the blue without any warning, and that was just like that and I was lost for words.

As a parent I want my son to feel good about himself as much as possible and not lack the confidence I did when I was his age, and be willing to try his hand at anything.

Fathers and sons are unique because they can have this male bond or drive each other bonkers. I remember my dad not really having a good relationship with his dad, my Grandad Jack, and wondering why.

They can become logger heads and not stand the site of each other, so as women we try to be the man in the middle to calm each one of them down. Now my husband and I have split up we share our son, so I take care of Henry during the week and get to spend some time with him and his fathers sees and gets to spend time with him at the weekends.

It can be tough because when I go to pick Henry up he can kick up a fuss to say he would like to see his dad, but it's just not possible, because of the hours his dad works.

I would never stop Henry from seeing his dad, and if Henry turned round and said "Mum I would like to live with dad" I would say even though I would feel a little hurt, stand back and let him. Of course it would depend if his father would want that too.

So lets embrace the fathers and sons in our lives and say Happy Fathers Day and stay safe.

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X

Building and finding your confidence

Hello and welcome to another building confidence blog.
With confidence it comes within, and is something that you build up on as you go through life.

It can take a while to find your confidence but it is possible. I found my confidence through activities like writing stories, painting, playing sports, drama and dancing.

I did dancing for about 14 years and one the cup for the highest marks and it took a lot of lessons and patience to get there but I did, and won the highest marks children's trophy the year before.

I found something I was good at and it made me see what I could achieve when I put my heart into it. Once you have found your niche then work on it, and set yourself goals and targets as you continue to build on your skills and knowledge to enhance your confidence.

Sometimes it means going beyond your comfort zone, but if you set you self little goals aswell as big ones it is achievable, and when you do achieve your goals as you continue so will your strength and determination which are recipes to a greater confidence.

So never allow anyone to hold you back and go for your dreams and goals and when you do log it down and review each goal achieved so you know where to continue to grow and get even better at.

Remember to stay safe and don't allow the lockdown we have been under to stop you from achieving success and your confidence.

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X

Learning about myself through dancing

Growing from a kid to an adult it took me a long time to learn about myself and who I really was, as I often felt that I couldn't be me.

I was very self conscious of myself from very early on, and it took dancing school to get me out of my shell.

Dancing is a brilliant way to boost your confidence, and I would go every Saturday morning, first at Sylvia Dales and then at Riley's dancing school. I did Ballet and Tap to begin with, and then went onto doing Ballroom, Latin and Disco Dancing.

I even find watching people dancing therapeutic, especially watching Ginger Rogers and Fred Astaire, see video below:

I loved films with Judy Garland and Gene Kelly, one being this one below:

I love dance it keeps you fit and you can do it indoors and at many gyms offer such classes, and adult community colleges, and when I went up to King Cross St Pancras station saw a load of couples doing the Salsa.

Dancing for me was my way of releasing my energy and those endorphins that I couldn't wait to continue on dancing the week after.

When I worked at Butlins you would see me most nights dancing in Jaks letting my hair down.

I have often now put some tunes on and started dancing in my living room.

So if you want to build your confidence why not take up dance it is brilliant at bringing a smile to your face and getting to meet new people.

Many thanks for reading,


Carrie X