When lacking of self-confidence can get the better of you

There are some days where I feel good and that I don't look too bad, but other times where as soon as I see myself in the mirror I am like "Bloody hell I look awful, that is not how I imagine me looking" and I really give myself a hard time.

Then I catch myself as I write about being positive and create good habits on my related site to this one (see link below) that do help me feel alright with myself and say "What is the matter with me, why am I shouting at me now when I felt alright two minutes ago?".

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When lacking of self confidence gets the better of you, you just want to say to the critic in your head telling you, you aren't beautiful and you aren't worth looking at and you aren't the same person in the mirror that you imagine yourself in your head, and goes on and on, and I want to say "SHUT THE FUCK UP".

I know if a person in the street kept saying this to me I would want to do the quickest sprint ever away from him or her, or punch them in the nose. 

There are times where I think if I am not worried about the way I look, I worry in case I don't and the same cycle above begins again. 

I have now met the man of my dreams and I love him to the moon and back and we have been seeing each other for a while now, and he loves everything about me, which has given me such a lift that I can't put into words how much I love him too, and I just want to talk to him and kiss all day long. 

I wish I could see what he see's but lacking self confidence and telling myself I am not worthy of being a beautiful person and I will never be the super looking woman I want to me, has become a habit, and I do, do a lot of self development to help me over come these thoughts, but they still have a sneaky way of creeping back in, and I wish that I had a hammer to smash that lack of self confidence voice up and make it go away.

These Self Development Habits are for example:

• Writing in my journal 
• Going for a walk 
• Having a healthy meal 
• Buy clothes that suits the colour of my skin and fits my shape
• Wear some make up for a change 

Dealing with your Self-confidence is something you do need to face head on to stop it from being there and another way I do this, which can also be included in this, is what I have often neglected doing, some self care. This can be from reading a Romantic Novel or a chick flick, watching a movies and painting your nails, washing your hair or using a lovely scented shower gel and then rubbing oil into your skin. It can be anything that makes you feel, "Okay I am not that bad, and I do feel good about myself now". Self care is essentially is giving you back your wellbeing to feel confident about yourself again and doing something for you, rather than worrying about other people all the time.

I love my son, but I did find when I was married to my first husband and becoming a mum, that I often lost my identity and who I was. This has come back and shown me that I can still be a mum, a wife again hopefully some day, that I can still have my identity its just got to be with the right people. 

The positive side of being a mum is you start to see things from their eyes, and they aren't going to say "Oh mum why haven't you washed your hair?" they don't care, and when you are happy they will feel happy too, and I don't want my lack of self-loath to effect him, and for him to feel the same. I want my children to all be happy with themselves. 

So if you have these moments of lack of self confidence getting the better of you, and you have ways in which have helped you overcome it, then I would love to hear from you. You can leave a comment below. 

Have a wonderful Friday and weekend, and I will be back with two more blogs next week.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X