Hello! Happy Friday! So here is a new Self Confidence video, which I am adding as part of my Life coaching content, and is shared with my site: https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com
In this video I am sharing 5 Things to help with confidence:
It all about building a Good Relationship with yourself and then build relationships with that, and taking time to focus on you, and ways in which you can do that.
Many thanks,
Carrie X
Hello and it is Saturday night that I am beginning this blog, as I want to talk about how to feel better when you have lost someone in your life and it can turn your world upside down, I want you to if you can watch this video talking about discussing with your family of when it is your time to go, that you have let your family know what you want.
I find the words RIP tough and so I avoid it because, it means final and that's it. Yet I like to believe that people move on and they are reincarnated or they stay in heaven watching over the people they love and are no longer in pain, but happy and free from harm.
Everyone deals with someone passing, as I like to call it,and I like to think I will see them again.
So, think about what would help you feel better about a person in your life passing in a way that doesn't bring further sadness but gives you peace and take time to address it when you are ready and take every step one at a time.
When you detour feelings that rise within you they can become stronger than ever before and so take notice of them and do allow yourself sometime to just be with yourself.
I tend to dream about those passing on, and it is usually after a day or two after their death and it took me for ages to get into my head that my Nan Skinner was no longer around and felt like whole chunk of my life as I knew it had come to an end, and it was a massive adjustment.
That is the thing when you have known some so long and they have been influential in you life, it can feel like "Wow I am not sure if I like this, will I ever get used to this turn in my life?"
I will when someone has passed on shut down and then deal with my life again once I have allowed the knowledge that, that person has gone and fully adjusted.
So, I hope you have not had a bad Lockdown experience and it is steadily shifting.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
As a kid I was very much the loner, and this began at Primary school and very shy, yet when my mum left on my first day, I never cried but tried to get to grips with it. I was bullied by kids in the higher years and would threaten to cut me open and I believed it.
I made sure when I went to Secondary school this would never happen again and thankfully it didn't. I still lacked confidence, and still felt out of my depth but I learned how to make sure I looked after myself too. i did have an eating disorder and kept it quiet but was paranoid about my weight. I had which kids would pick on me about my teeth and they way I spoke, but I still tried my hardest not to allow these jabs as much as possible and fought my way through my school years as I couldn't wait for them to be over.
I witnessed other kids being bullied, and being picked on, and there were kids at Primary school got bullied a lot worse bullying, like one of the boys in the other years, couldn't walk down a corridor without being told he smelled, yet he never picked a fight and went around putting up with it.
I did tell my mum and she dealt with it, and spoke to one of the teachers about it. I felt like I was some sort of doll being so petite, not grown much now I am 40, I guess some kids are born small, and that is me.
That would bother me, my height and this effected how other kids would treat me, but I held my own and have accepted my height now, yet I would pray to be tall, I guess God has no control over this, so it is as it is. I will always be petite and so acceptance of yourself makes all the difference.
It not about how a person looks but are treated, because of it and raise you voice, don't deal with bullying silently and tell someone. Now there is Safeguarding, for kids and so that has made a massive change and if kids continue to bully they will be taken into a another class and teachers will speak with parents about it. Some parents can be unaware of their child being bullied at school, so working in a few nurseries I had worked, if you spot any signs like body language, scared and withdrawn, then it could be a sign and so parents will be told and chatted in private.
Bullying can be a factor of how child feels and can travel with them as they grow, so encourage kids to speak to someone and get support.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
