Becoming stronger that my confidence has turned a corner

There have been times where I couldn't bear looking at myself because it would break my heart of what I saw. I felt that I was disformed and would get upset when clothes shopping. So what has changed? Me!

I was hating these feelings and felt fed up of not liking myself. So what has changed? Me! 

Appearance isn't everything and I have a brain that works and I can walk and run, and could dance and it was doing things where I'd feel alive that helped build my confidence and it was reaching out to others to look at me and have their approval for me to feel good. 

I began to make good positive changes, like making an effort each day and put some make up on, would get fit rather than thinking about it and not moving, and now I am finally happy in my own skin. I can look in the mirror and I not bothered about wearing make up all the time and like being with myself and don't fed up of what I see. 

Life is full of challenges and accepting yourself is one of them. I don't want to be fed up with myself for anymore. It is draining and so I had to get a hold of myself. and make changes, like not sleeping in all of the time, not eating healthy and living by each amount of money I had earned and lost sense of myself.

I have had to get to know myself and who I truly am rather than being someone else for other people. You have to find that out. Who are you? What do you belief? and what is your style? 

I love being in my leggins and in summer found my love of shorts again. It is what helps me be me and not attracting other people, but I can look at myself and say "This is me and I am okay with that".

I have had to be strong and that has been the key to how I feel now. Of course I still get moments where I still avoid a mirror, but not so much. I like being me and am down to earth, and that is what I want people to see me as, not someone who is always giving myself a hard time, but when you accept yourself others will follow and that gives me such power, that we all are beautiful and unique and that is okay. 

Check out Mel Robbins book The High 5 habit, as this is brilliant method that can help your confidence too and be able to see the goodness in you and get rid of the bad. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

 

Understanding the mind and gaining control

I at the moment doing a Life Coaching Programme called "The Summer Project 2022" to help you have a better Summer and a better life, so please check out my blog linked here: https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com

What I will do is to add this blog linked to the above blog site as part of my programme, and to my Pinterest Pin to share whilst I do this project. https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/

So, this blog is all about Understanding the mind and gaining control, and to do that you need to sit down and spend sometime of where you are feeling now today, but also go through assets you have, example, you like your Living room but there is a room you hate going into because it may be messy and you are trying to avoid it and feel overwhelmed every time you go in there. I would avoid my bank account, but to gain control I now check it everyday and give myself a target now of how much I want to save each month and this has made me worrying about my finances a lot less. 

This can effect how we feel and our mind, as it makes us feel low because we can't get ourselves together to sort this room out or any area in your life you are wanting to ignore, but you want to get in touch with. 

I wrote a book about how to make one change a day in your life on amazon, and just making one a change can still make all he difference, rather than allow to dictate your feelings and your mind. 

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Things-Change-one-day-time-ebook/dp/B0916KDN9H/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3TL3CMAPUOVB0&keywords=EBooks+by+Carrie+Holmes&qid=1657702366&s=digital-text&sprefix=ebooks+by+carrie+holmes%2Cdigital-text%2C84&sr=1-2

The other thing to do is to separate items into categories, but if this is too much then just put one item in the box and just do one category at a time. If you not liking your appearance then check out your clothes perhaps they aren't your style and I find I do this, I go buy price rather than what benefit this item will have one me. 

If you feel slumped it is because you just need to do a makeover and revamp your closet. 

What gives you value? and what items and fashion suit you. If you can afford why not get a stylist and watch Trinny London and Melissa Murrell they do a lot of videos to styling and its that simple and the mind when it sees mess creates mess into your life but once you start gradually making changes can help the mind feel at piece and will get control of it, rather than feeling low because you life is chaotic, and not a good rhythm.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Typical London Gal