It's not about Fitting in

 As a kid I felt like that all the time, feeling as if I didn't fit in but actual fact I am glad I didn't as I made more friends that way. I didn't want to be the same as everyone else and the friends I have yes we have things in common but that is not important. I find them easy to talk to at times and we click and glad we have our own way of dressing and there was a time when I wanted the same but now I look like I wish and I love people like Madonna and Boy George because they didn't meet the normal criteria and broke rules. 

Me in my PJs and bed socks

I feel we focus so much on trying to be someone else to please others but from experience you just end up feeling miserable and it is important to be your own person. 

Just because everyone wears make up, have bright white teeth and perfect skin, doesn't make anyone less of a person and I like not wearing make up on days. Yes |I brush my teeth, but they aren't straight and have wondered about Veneers, but it is expensive and want because it would make me feel better not because it is a trend or because to impress other. If I am just pottering indoors or having a shop I like be bare fast and save make up for special occasions. 

I feel we so focused on people accepting us that we forget to live and if you feel good wearing make up then wear it, if you don't then don't and you don't need tons of skincare. People don't think I am my age yet I like trying skincare, but I don't use it everyday as I like to be completely free on some days and if I feel a need a bit of Simple or Nivea, my go too's when it comes to skincare then I will but it on, on my terms and noone else's.

I think Pamela Anderson has made it okay not to have a lot a make up on. I love Joy Good who will do a red lip without make up and its what suits you. There's no need to apologise something I have had to learn because the only approval we need is from us, ourselves and feel we all needed to be reminded of that.

It is good to dress up and I like to try different styles and a pair of tracksuit bottoms with a concert T-Shirt on good enough for me. I do like to wear boots aswell but again wear these if I am going out for a meal, someone's birthday but I like my everyday clothes and as soon as I can will put my lounge wear.

I hope this helps you with your confidence and be who you want to be.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X