The Words of Wisdom

Do you ever get knocked down by your friends or family when it comes to your own ideas, who advise not to do something, not really criticising but like warn you of the reasons why you shouldn't?

Then this knocks your confidence and the adrenaline boost you were having as you were building the ideas of what you wanted to do in your head?

I am running my own business at the moment and constantly I have people advising oh you shouldn't do that or this, and questions what you are doing because it is something that they wouldn't do. I appreciate that there are people whom wouldn't do it and are warning to protect me but I think you have to learn by your own mistakes, you have to fly by yourself sometimes and take those risks. You will never know what is out there or see things for yourself if you don't look on the other side of the journey you want to take. 

I am very set and focussed on what I want to achieve and sometimes you have to be little generous towards people at a certain extent so they can trust and know that I am not running my business just for the money but it is because this will help me with my next business I am building which will be non profit but will be connecting and helping to build other people through my own skills I have taught and built myself. 

If you don't take the risks you will never know what is out there. I know I need to be more strict with myself when it comes to my customers paying me for example but I also want to build trust and  loyalty and see that I am not in it to just make money but I really feel this will my beginning to start a new journey and find out what I am really capable of doing. Also the people who are warning are probably doing it because they see fears from creating a business that is why they would never do it, but I know this is something I have been dreaming and is my blueprint in life to be my own person and boss. 

So next time someone warns you, do a pro and cons list, and write why you do not feel you should do it, if it is something you are adamant about doing and would like to find out if it will work I say go for it, but of course do your research speak to experts and others for market research to get different opinions or they may also like to give help by passing their own ideas to help. 

But remember you have the utter control to make the decision yourself.

Will it fulfil you in the short and long term if you take the risk, and run your own business for example?

If you don't will you be regretting it for the rest of your life, and beat yourself up because you never found out?

People have dreams and ambitions for a reason and if it something you constantly think about then the only way you are going to really find out if it is for you is by doing it, and taking the risk whether it is playing guitar or planning a new career. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X

Under Pressure

The last couple of weeks have been the toughest. I have been told that my job is coming to an end, and from that moment it feels like a lot of things are trying to fall on top of me, but I keep pushing them back.

As soon as one challenging situation comes along and resolved, another one comes along.

I was overdrawn in one of my bank accounts because an amount had gone on a date I had not been planned and so had to try convince the bank of this issue and because of my current situation, and I am being refunded for that.

Also I knew then that I had to take care of my finances, so transferred money from savings to the overdrawn account and cancel my sky sports on my Virgin Media package to cut down on items. I have also had to cancel a few things to plan ahead really for when my job comes to an end.

Last Monday my email didn't work on my Galaxy Tablet and so the email that my football team were supposed to get they didn't, I hadn't realised until later on in the day to do to much about it, however the boys did have training and all went to plan.

Books to help:
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Someone lost their jacket, and I tried to help and it got backfired onto myself, even I thought I was doing the right thing. However problem resolved and I know I did my part in making sure the jacket is with the correct person.

I am doing my utmost best to change things around and what it is teaching me is that I need to take action, not tomorrow or next week, but now.

Therefore I am using all the tools offered to me, such as today I went to a C.V workshop at work which was helpful and now I know whom I can go too, to help me begin the next journey. I am using my blogs and social media network to release my inner thoughts and great things that I can share with other people.
Through doing this I have been sent some great ebooks that have helped me see link below, and you can too download these free ebooks.

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I have met with my Mentor today to talk about putting my Social Enterprise Project together to have that planned more ready to have it completely set up.

So what I would like say to help those who may be having some bad luck now, is keep positive it is just your life changing cycle ready for the next chapter. Life is full of chapters and some end, some are there for life and there are new ones waiting on the other side of the door.

Please share your story of being under pressure or if you've had a bad luck spell in your life and how did you make the changes to turn it around into good?

Thank you for reading and do please share your story too.

Carrie X

My weekly rituals

I love my weekly rituals as they are my "me" time thing, and it takes me away from all the business and hustle and bustle.

My weekly rituals are great for recharging your batteries and helping with your self confidence and through these you can develop new skills and discover new things.

Mine are:

- Running.
- Bubble Bath
- Reading
- Organizing
- YouTube.

So do you have weekly rituals?

Why not create some today, they can be whatever you choose and if they are not enjoyable or suck out your energy then they are not. If they are relaxing you, and you feel revitalised/fresh, and see positive changes in yourself after these then they are rituals.

If you do have weekly rituals then let me know what they are, I would love to hear how you have "me" time.

Many thanks for reading.

Carrie X

How to brighten up your day.

Quick 10 tips

1. Where a bright or light colour, instead of dark colours, as these colours can uplift your mood.
2. A bath with scented oils and candles. Scented oils and candles are available at a good cost, from 99p to £4.99, ranging from the stores such as the 99 pence and pound shops, charity shops and stores such as TK Maxx and Avon.
3. Exercise to your favourite upbeat track in the morning, this can really help kick start your day.
4. Watch a comedy either a TV programme, DVD TV box set or a funny film.
5. Watch a feel good film, such as Love Actually, The Working Girl (my favourite and I find inspiring) and The Woman.
6. Meet with a friend and go for walk, coffee and a chat.
7. Learn a new skill.
8. Write a letter or send a card to a friend, it will make a nice surprise to them and will help you feel good in yourself.
9. Have one evening to yourself, unhook the phone, turn of the mobile and have some lazy time for the evening watching what you would like to watch on TV or a film.
10. Shut your eyes and listen to chill out music 

End of times

It is strange how some things come to the end of its time.

This week my campaign I work for as a Customer Service Professional were told today that there is a chance of redundancy as it is moving to Poland.

Now everyone is now trying to transfer to other campaigns hoping that they will get the chance to move, and others planning to move from the organisation, and go onto different things.

I am going to try for another campaign just to see if I get anywhere, but because of my volunteer work it may not be possible, but I am going to try anyway and look for part time work, as this is what I really would like to do.

Now everyone is talking about leaving and it’s the end, and losing touch.

Everyone knew at Christmas that there was a chance it would happen, and as much as we speculated we didn’t know if it was just speculation or true; now it has hit home that at the end of the month people will be out of a job adding more to the unemployment. Now the plans that people have made now will have to change.

How do you come out of this dark hole?

As much as you try to encourage others and yourself and be positive you can’t help but that "Voice of doubt" having a word of "What will happen?"

Drive yourself forward is the way and to take every opportunity not on what you think you should go for, but you know you want to go for. Use the "Voice of doubt" as a way of encouraging you to go for the opportunites and take a few risks, how will you know if it will work unless you try?

So I will wait before the door closes on my existing working life to see what opportunities and choices come my way, and then go through the new door to welcome the new working life that leads me to the next chapter of my life.  

Thank you for reading.

Carrie X

Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is daunting and difficult to overcome.

I didn't know that I had Social Anxiety until I read a book called "Know your mind" and I read this because to help me with my my home study course in fitness and nutrition in regards to changing certain behaviours, but also I was having issues with being irritable, I felt fed up and angry; I had not know why this was and why I felt this way but I had to sort it out, for my self and for the relationship with my husband. 

I always felt and sometimes I still feel a little anxious and nervous when it comes to meeting people even going to a family gathering. I think it is because you feel you have to meet a certain expectation and I would worry about not making a good impression. I would stutter, suddenly feel self conscious as I spoke and then I would start to sweat and then begin to not make sense as I spoke or my mind would go blank as I was talking about something, and it would all come out jumbled and I would feel so stupid, I wish at that moment that the world would suck me down into the ground. 

Now I can put a name to these issues as before I always felt different because I felt this way, I have learnt to take control and not let myself let my anxiety get the better of me as it did before; before I would allow the anxiety and the "Voice of doubt" I call it talk me out of doing things such as going to sports club or class, and I would feel regretful and low, gutless because I knew I should have gone and then would leave it to another time, then another. 

The way to handle social anxiety is to seek help and advice, and now that I know that there are other people who have Social Anxiety issues too that I am not on my own, I not mad and learnt from getting fit, meeting new people, from building new relationships that social situations are not all that bad. What was strange was when going to rugby I never had social issues and felt unusually comfortable. I think now it was due to certain intense environments and if you have friendly and confident people around you who can help boost your energy then you can come out of the social anxiety dilemma and take control of it.

I do still get anxious but not to the extent I use too, I still not able to sit on tables where there are people I don't know or there are some people I will speak to but I still not able to go over and ask if I can sit with them I always wait for them to ask me to join them first. However life is a lot easier now and I kind of had to get over the social anxiety hurdle because of wanting to do football coaching and to be able to communicate to people to work in Customer Service.

I hope my blog helps others with social anxiety and see that they are not on their own and if you too have social anxiety and would like to share your story, then please do.

Many thanks for reading my blog.

Carrie