When your kids give you confidence and how we can learn from them

I have worked a lot on myself and I am writing many things about this and like sharing hoping that you as my audience and followers find it helpful and makes you feel better. When we lack confidence we can often feel like we are on our own, but no we are not. 

My son tells me that he loves me now, and I love it, and gives me such confidence because I feel me and my son have turned a corner in that he feels happy to share how he feels, and it is so endearing. I think its because you know they mean it, and not saying it because it is a new sentence they have just learned. 

He is so aware of what is around him and who is who in his life and when he calls me I get so touched about it and feel such comfort. I tell him everyday I love him and I want our relationship to be a good window for him and me to talk about things and be expressive. For a while I felt the relationship was being effected, because I'd want to be with me phone rather than spending time to play, and disappointed in myself in doing that, but I feared being a parent and so to escape I'd be looking on my phone, rather than playing with my son. 

How was I able to bond with Henry if I want to spend time bonding with my phone and blogs, rather than him? I now I leave my phone in my bag, and when he is with me, make sure I take it out of site and this has made a huge difference, because he will knock it out of my hand, to say, "Its my time not your phone" and this has been a education for me as kids live for now, not what happened yesterday or what is happening tomorrow but now, presently. 

Our insecurities can be passed on, but since spending time with my son, it has made me active, playing football, tennis and cricket, and pushed these feelings of low self worth better. 

I do write a parenting blog if you'd like to check it out, https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com  and I have books on parenting too, check them out on amazon.com, under my names, Carrie Challoner and Carrie Holmes. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Building confidents as a mum

Everything I do I doubt myself, and has become a habit. I share a lot about my life online, and I doubt this too. It is safe to say I am a doubter and proud about it, but know it something I progressively changing. 

I am learning to look after myself without feeling guilty that "I shouldn't be doing that as its selfish and being selfish is wrong". NO IT IS NOT! my gut tells me. I have learned your gut says a thousand things and I am learning to use it to stop the doubting. 

Thing about being a mum I thought I'd have it all sussed as I have looked after other peoples children, but it is totally different. There is no running away and passing the responsibility and it can fall on your shoulders and covered in pooh, and then phone rings, the door goes and its like "Why didn't anyone tell me?", "I never knew it will be like this", and I didn't. Yet I naturally loved my little boy and couldn't believe he had arrived and it took a while to sink it. I never had issues about bonding, but it was getting to know this little human and meant that I would have to get myself together. 

I have come to see I will always be doubting but I know how to handle it now and answer it, and that is by saying "I know what I am doing, and I know myself, and prove it to myself, and I have done that by setting goals for me and my son, and grow our relationship by sharing my love to him. He now tells me he loves me and it really does make my heart melt. So I feel that I have done alright and the doubt has become less. 

I can cook for my son, I can get him to read a book and can help get his homework done and be there on time when he comes home from school, and do practice affirmations and even have a notebook with them written down, and this has helped me a lot. 

I have a gratitude journal and go through what I am thankful for including how I feel about myself and I have changed a lot. I am no longer a stranger to myself, being a human being and a mum, and have more self belief in myself than ever before. 

So focus on what you can rather than what you can't do.

I have books on parenting and other topics on amazon.com under the names Carrie Challoner and Carrie Holmes, so if you'd like to read them then take a look.  

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X   

Feeling self Conscious during the summer

I get so worried over the summer when it comes to the way I look and feel, and I wrote a blog a long time ago about having bikini body, if I find it I will link it. I can't wear a dress without shaving my legs first and my armpits. I hate having body hair. The only place I like it, is when its on my head and so invest a lot of money on razors, and always wear flip flops because of hair growth on my feet and because I don't always paint my nails. 

I don't wear a bikini, but a swimming costume and with pair of cycling shorts because of body hair. If I could get it done I would have have laser treatment to get rid of my body hair and not have to worry about it. 

I have used fake tan before now, but it always looked patchy, and so I do try to spend time in the sun, but I have never been good with heat, and become hot and bothered. Not that I don't like summer, I do, as it like it when it gets dark later in the day. It does feel you have more of a day, yet it is always a battle of what to wear, because of feeling self conscious. 

My go to items are leggins and I do own some pairs of shorts but not a lot. I tend to wear these indoors and not outside, a lot. I would love to look good in a bikini, and have more swim wear. I remember as a kid when we would go to Menorca and many of the women we travelled with, would go topless, and admired this, as the woman's body shouldn't be nothing to hide, as we carry babies in ours and not something we should take for granted. I have had to work a lot with being body confident and accepting what I have.

For me it is about taking one step at a time, and going to invest in creating a more happiness with myself and find items that are flattering, and not feel bad in doing so. Listening to a lot of Life Coaches like Mel Robbins, Grant Cardone and Tony Robbins, to invest in myself and that is to be more summer confident. How about you do you feel the same. 

Please leave a comment below, and lets support each other, as often just that alone can help how we feel about ourselves and spend time in working on appearance, and what is going to make you happy. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X