Depression affects all kinds of people, those who have nothing, loads who have a medium life working but they feel they have no prospects to do anything else, and those who appear to have everything.
There is a programme starting next week on BBC 3 about footballers who have battled with depression and Gary Speed's sister talks about how she wished she had been able to let Gary confide in her for help. Gary Speed did appear to have the world at his feet, he was doing well has Wales International Manager, very well respected and high regarded through the world, had two sons who also were doing well and a glamorous gorgeous wife.
I do think more help should be out there and support of those suffering with depression, as a lot of the time they won't speak to those close to them about it, as they feel that they won't understand or some say it's just having a bad day.
Depression is more deeper than just a bad day, it is a illness that can strike at any time, it can make you feel like your falling down a hole that you see no way out of, and so people take their lives because they can't see a way out of the emotional demon "Depression".
With depression comes the appearance to people that all is good to the world to the outside when they see or chat to people they know, to not show that something is wrong. This is where the mind can go into overtime and feel like a roller-coaster of thoughts, all bad and you try to reason to yourself about things you have but you feel they would be better of without you.
You can feel that you don't have the energy to do anything and just want to hide away from the world.
So I would like to say to those who have like myself gone through a stage of depression, is that you are not on your own and there is always a good way out to rebuild your life so you know longer have to feel like your falling down that dark depression hole.
You will always have my support.
Many thanks for reading.
Carrie X
Thursday, 4 July 2013
Sunday, 12 May 2013
Dropped my guard
This last weekend started of exciting as I went to see one of my favourite TV programmes Loose Women and then it all went wrong.
Me and my hubby ordered a take away and used one of our favourite trusted places but they delivered the wrong food, but did work out well in the end as when the right order turned up he didn't want the other one (the wrong order) back and so we ended up with two, so we had part of the other order today the chicken, but also a cheque that I had been waiting for had not turned up and one of my Ebay sells went wrong as they stated it was delivered all torn up and an item was missing from the parcel, even though I had sent it all nicely packaged and sent on the same day bought.
Then I find out that a Spam message was sent out as if from me on Twitter. I know that there are hackers and people out there who aren't honest out there but because of having a lot of followers on twitter and have built a good connection with loads of people I did kind of drop my guard quite bit, it has taught me a lesson.
Life is about learning from mistakes and things that go wrong.
However it has really affected my confidence and made me realised that I do have to be careful and now have put tight security on my twitter account and I am going to have a break from Social Media to recharge and rebuild my confidence with this. It is true what Tony Robbins says in his book I am reading at the moment, when something goes wrong for you in a particular place or website or even had a bad reaction to certain food, that you build up an association of pain with that particular thing and that is what has happened. Since the issue with Ebay even though it was one out of 12 people who I have sold and sent products bought from me too, that I now weary of using Ebay to sell items again, especially as I know other people whom have had bad experiences on Ebay and not long ago witnessed a young girl being bullied on Facebook by someone who had sent a Spam mail via Facebook chat and hacked into someone elses account appearing as if it was from them.
Thankfully this has stopped and I hope whoever was doing that was punished.
As I am writing this blog I am thinking that I don't want to let these unhonest spiteful people who do scams on websites, or break into peoples parcels and who hack into peoples website accounts to win as the only way to fight these people is to report them and to build up your guard so your details and messages and website accounts are protected, but still carry on and remember the positives things that have happened and the nice messages I have received from honest people like myself on twitter and on facebook and Ebay too.
If you too are scammed or had issues with Ebay then do report it and do protect your details, as those people who do hack into peoples items and information need to be stopped.
Many thanks for reading.
Carrie X
Me and my hubby ordered a take away and used one of our favourite trusted places but they delivered the wrong food, but did work out well in the end as when the right order turned up he didn't want the other one (the wrong order) back and so we ended up with two, so we had part of the other order today the chicken, but also a cheque that I had been waiting for had not turned up and one of my Ebay sells went wrong as they stated it was delivered all torn up and an item was missing from the parcel, even though I had sent it all nicely packaged and sent on the same day bought.
Then I find out that a Spam message was sent out as if from me on Twitter. I know that there are hackers and people out there who aren't honest out there but because of having a lot of followers on twitter and have built a good connection with loads of people I did kind of drop my guard quite bit, it has taught me a lesson.
Life is about learning from mistakes and things that go wrong.
However it has really affected my confidence and made me realised that I do have to be careful and now have put tight security on my twitter account and I am going to have a break from Social Media to recharge and rebuild my confidence with this. It is true what Tony Robbins says in his book I am reading at the moment, when something goes wrong for you in a particular place or website or even had a bad reaction to certain food, that you build up an association of pain with that particular thing and that is what has happened. Since the issue with Ebay even though it was one out of 12 people who I have sold and sent products bought from me too, that I now weary of using Ebay to sell items again, especially as I know other people whom have had bad experiences on Ebay and not long ago witnessed a young girl being bullied on Facebook by someone who had sent a Spam mail via Facebook chat and hacked into someone elses account appearing as if it was from them.
Thankfully this has stopped and I hope whoever was doing that was punished.
As I am writing this blog I am thinking that I don't want to let these unhonest spiteful people who do scams on websites, or break into peoples parcels and who hack into peoples website accounts to win as the only way to fight these people is to report them and to build up your guard so your details and messages and website accounts are protected, but still carry on and remember the positives things that have happened and the nice messages I have received from honest people like myself on twitter and on facebook and Ebay too.
If you too are scammed or had issues with Ebay then do report it and do protect your details, as those people who do hack into peoples items and information need to be stopped.
Many thanks for reading.
Carrie X
Wednesday, 1 May 2013
Ignore the doubters
This is a subject that I have written about before in a blog I did about people who judge before you've even shown them what you can do.
Now I want to write about the doubters, those who doubt your ability, when you tell them that you are taking a new project, or creating a new business; God forbid don't tell them that there is a set up fee, because you might aswell give them a hammer to hit you over the head with, and completey destroy the enthusiasm you have.
I am now beginning my own adventure and before I told my doubter, I was full of enthusiasm, but what I trust is my inner self, I know if it is a bad idea or not, and as some have little faith in what I do due to passed mistakes I do my research before I do anything.
Life is about making mistakes and it has taught me a lot, but also watching and being inspired by other people has also taught that you have to take that risk sometimes.
If you don't take that opportunity when will you?
So even though the doubter may be doing it to protect you it can also be sole destroying, if someone tells me of an idea they have I support and I say "Great, just do your research and let me know if you have any % help" that gives the person who tells you and a boost, because your not doubting or destroying their high feelings your saying you think this is great, but also giving your protective advise going on your own mistakes to help them not make the same mistakes as yourself and giving your support, which is the greatest thing you can give to someone who has an adventure they what to pursue. Doubters just give me more fighting power to succeed and I can say "Look I know it was a risk but look it has paid off".
But so what if you haven't or takes a while?
I say learn from this and keep trying.
I loving the fact that what I do now I am in charge of and that it is up to me to go out there and connect with people to show that I am in it for me and to connect with them and to make those doubters I have to change their mind.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
Now I want to write about the doubters, those who doubt your ability, when you tell them that you are taking a new project, or creating a new business; God forbid don't tell them that there is a set up fee, because you might aswell give them a hammer to hit you over the head with, and completey destroy the enthusiasm you have.
I am now beginning my own adventure and before I told my doubter, I was full of enthusiasm, but what I trust is my inner self, I know if it is a bad idea or not, and as some have little faith in what I do due to passed mistakes I do my research before I do anything.
Life is about making mistakes and it has taught me a lot, but also watching and being inspired by other people has also taught that you have to take that risk sometimes.
If you don't take that opportunity when will you?
So even though the doubter may be doing it to protect you it can also be sole destroying, if someone tells me of an idea they have I support and I say "Great, just do your research and let me know if you have any % help" that gives the person who tells you and a boost, because your not doubting or destroying their high feelings your saying you think this is great, but also giving your protective advise going on your own mistakes to help them not make the same mistakes as yourself and giving your support, which is the greatest thing you can give to someone who has an adventure they what to pursue. Doubters just give me more fighting power to succeed and I can say "Look I know it was a risk but look it has paid off".
But so what if you haven't or takes a while?
I say learn from this and keep trying.
I loving the fact that what I do now I am in charge of and that it is up to me to go out there and connect with people to show that I am in it for me and to connect with them and to make those doubters I have to change their mind.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
Friday, 29 March 2013
The Words of Wisdom
Do you ever get knocked down by your friends or family when it comes to your own ideas, who advise not to do something, not really criticising but like warn you of the reasons why you shouldn't?
Then this knocks your confidence and the adrenaline boost you were having as you were building the ideas of what you wanted to do in your head?
I am running my own business at the moment and constantly I have people advising oh you shouldn't do that or this, and questions what you are doing because it is something that they wouldn't do. I appreciate that there are people whom wouldn't do it and are warning to protect me but I think you have to learn by your own mistakes, you have to fly by yourself sometimes and take those risks. You will never know what is out there or see things for yourself if you don't look on the other side of the journey you want to take.
I am very set and focussed on what I want to achieve and sometimes you have to be little generous towards people at a certain extent so they can trust and know that I am not running my business just for the money but it is because this will help me with my next business I am building which will be non profit but will be connecting and helping to build other people through my own skills I have taught and built myself.
If you don't take the risks you will never know what is out there. I know I need to be more strict with myself when it comes to my customers paying me for example but I also want to build trust and loyalty and see that I am not in it to just make money but I really feel this will my beginning to start a new journey and find out what I am really capable of doing. Also the people who are warning are probably doing it because they see fears from creating a business that is why they would never do it, but I know this is something I have been dreaming and is my blueprint in life to be my own person and boss.
So next time someone warns you, do a pro and cons list, and write why you do not feel you should do it, if it is something you are adamant about doing and would like to find out if it will work I say go for it, but of course do your research speak to experts and others for market research to get different opinions or they may also like to give help by passing their own ideas to help.
But remember you have the utter control to make the decision yourself.
Will it fulfil you in the short and long term if you take the risk, and run your own business for example?
If you don't will you be regretting it for the rest of your life, and beat yourself up because you never found out?
People have dreams and ambitions for a reason and if it something you constantly think about then the only way you are going to really find out if it is for you is by doing it, and taking the risk whether it is playing guitar or planning a new career.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
Friday, 15 March 2013
Under Pressure
The last couple of weeks have been the toughest. I have been told that my job is coming to an end, and from that moment it feels like a lot of things are trying to fall on top of me, but I keep pushing them back.
As soon as one challenging situation comes along and resolved, another one comes along.
I was overdrawn in one of my bank accounts because an amount had gone on a date I had not been planned and so had to try convince the bank of this issue and because of my current situation, and I am being refunded for that.
Also I knew then that I had to take care of my finances, so transferred money from savings to the overdrawn account and cancel my sky sports on my Virgin Media package to cut down on items. I have also had to cancel a few things to plan ahead really for when my job comes to an end.
Last Monday my email didn't work on my Galaxy Tablet and so the email that my football team were supposed to get they didn't, I hadn't realised until later on in the day to do to much about it, however the boys did have training and all went to plan.
Books to help:
:http://www.amazon.co.uk/Power-Shape-Your-Destiny-Strategies/dp/1442352655/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1363381028&sr=1-4
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/9814302635/ref=asc_df_981430263512375634?smid=A3P5ROKL5A1OLE&tag=shopdc94343-21&linkCode=asn&creative=22206&creativeASIN=9814302635
Someone lost their jacket, and I tried to help and it got backfired onto myself, even I thought I was doing the right thing. However problem resolved and I know I did my part in making sure the jacket is with the correct person.
I am doing my utmost best to change things around and what it is teaching me is that I need to take action, not tomorrow or next week, but now.
Therefore I am using all the tools offered to me, such as today I went to a C.V workshop at work which was helpful and now I know whom I can go too, to help me begin the next journey. I am using my blogs and social media network to release my inner thoughts and great things that I can share with other people.
Through doing this I have been sent some great ebooks that have helped me see link below, and you can too download these free ebooks.
http://tiny.cc/gmailrefer
I have met with my Mentor today to talk about putting my Social Enterprise Project together to have that planned more ready to have it completely set up.
So what I would like say to help those who may be having some bad luck now, is keep positive it is just your life changing cycle ready for the next chapter. Life is full of chapters and some end, some are there for life and there are new ones waiting on the other side of the door.
Please share your story of being under pressure or if you've had a bad luck spell in your life and how did you make the changes to turn it around into good?
Thank you for reading and do please share your story too.
Carrie X
As soon as one challenging situation comes along and resolved, another one comes along.
I was overdrawn in one of my bank accounts because an amount had gone on a date I had not been planned and so had to try convince the bank of this issue and because of my current situation, and I am being refunded for that.
Also I knew then that I had to take care of my finances, so transferred money from savings to the overdrawn account and cancel my sky sports on my Virgin Media package to cut down on items. I have also had to cancel a few things to plan ahead really for when my job comes to an end.
Last Monday my email didn't work on my Galaxy Tablet and so the email that my football team were supposed to get they didn't, I hadn't realised until later on in the day to do to much about it, however the boys did have training and all went to plan.
Books to help:
:http://www.amazon.co.uk/Power-Shape-Your-Destiny-Strategies/dp/1442352655/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1363381028&sr=1-4
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/9814302635/ref=asc_df_981430263512375634?smid=A3P5ROKL5A1OLE&tag=shopdc94343-21&linkCode=asn&creative=22206&creativeASIN=9814302635
Someone lost their jacket, and I tried to help and it got backfired onto myself, even I thought I was doing the right thing. However problem resolved and I know I did my part in making sure the jacket is with the correct person.
I am doing my utmost best to change things around and what it is teaching me is that I need to take action, not tomorrow or next week, but now.
Therefore I am using all the tools offered to me, such as today I went to a C.V workshop at work which was helpful and now I know whom I can go too, to help me begin the next journey. I am using my blogs and social media network to release my inner thoughts and great things that I can share with other people.
Through doing this I have been sent some great ebooks that have helped me see link below, and you can too download these free ebooks.
http://tiny.cc/gmailrefer
I have met with my Mentor today to talk about putting my Social Enterprise Project together to have that planned more ready to have it completely set up.
So what I would like say to help those who may be having some bad luck now, is keep positive it is just your life changing cycle ready for the next chapter. Life is full of chapters and some end, some are there for life and there are new ones waiting on the other side of the door.
Please share your story of being under pressure or if you've had a bad luck spell in your life and how did you make the changes to turn it around into good?
Thank you for reading and do please share your story too.
Carrie X
Wednesday, 13 March 2013
My weekly rituals
I love my weekly rituals as they are my "me" time thing, and it takes me away from all the business and hustle and bustle.
My weekly rituals are great for recharging your batteries and helping with your self confidence and through these you can develop new skills and discover new things.
Mine are:
- Running.
- Bubble Bath
- Reading
- Organizing
- YouTube.
So do you have weekly rituals?
Why not create some today, they can be whatever you choose and if they are not enjoyable or suck out your energy then they are not. If they are relaxing you, and you feel revitalised/fresh, and see positive changes in yourself after these then they are rituals.
If you do have weekly rituals then let me know what they are, I would love to hear how you have "me" time.
Many thanks for reading.
Carrie X
My weekly rituals are great for recharging your batteries and helping with your self confidence and through these you can develop new skills and discover new things.
Mine are:
- Running.
- Bubble Bath
- Reading
- Organizing
- YouTube.
So do you have weekly rituals?
Why not create some today, they can be whatever you choose and if they are not enjoyable or suck out your energy then they are not. If they are relaxing you, and you feel revitalised/fresh, and see positive changes in yourself after these then they are rituals.
If you do have weekly rituals then let me know what they are, I would love to hear how you have "me" time.
Many thanks for reading.
Carrie X
Wednesday, 6 March 2013
How to brighten up your day.
Quick 10 tips
- Where a bright or light colour, instead of dark colours, as these colours can uplift your mood.
- A bath with scented oils and candles. Scented oils and candles are available at a good cost, from 99p to £4.99, ranging from the stores such as the 99 pence and pound shops, charity shops and stores such as TK Maxx and Avon.
- Exercise to your favourite upbeat track in the morning, this can really help kick start your day.
- Watch a comedy either a TV programme, DVD TV box set or a funny film.
- Watch a feel good film, such as Love Actually, The Working Girl (my favourite and I find inspiring) and The Woman.
- Meet with a friend and go for walk, coffee and a chat.
- Learn a new skill.
- Write a letter or send a card to a friend, it will make a nice surprise to them and will help you feel good in yourself.
- Have one evening to yourself, unhook the phone, turn of the mobile and have some lazy time for the evening watching what you would like to watch on TV or a film.
- Shut your eyes and listen to chill out music
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