New Begnnings and challenges

Hello and weleome! So since I wrote this blog post so much has changed so I wanted to update you all. I have had new beginnings in that I am now in a new relationship, some of my friendships have changed and my working life has changed.

This blog post in sponsored by the #mentalhealth organisation Mind.org who help and support Mental Health. 

It is so good to have a fresh start and for me this is what this year has all been about. Now I am doing a programme called "Project 2021", which is a Life Coaching programme, fall of tools and information to help you have a better year and a better life.

I never thought I'd say the next sentence, and that is "I am loving life" not the environment I am in, as this is on the cards to change, but in terms of work and being in a finally a Very Much in Love relationship, and as Donna Summer sang "This Time I know Its for real". 

In terms of challenges I have started new habits, I get up early like I have now to start work, I am creating new EBooks everyday, and so look under the name Carrie L.M or Carrie Lee Holmes, I am starting to bet back into fitness, and I am writing more songs. I am so looking forward to my fresh start and the other items and opportunities that are coming my way and really think that often you have to take on the rough with the smooth, but if I can get out of a dark hole I found myself last year, so can you.

Find something that makes you smile and pin it to a wall or somewhere you look everyday to start making a change.

Many thanks for reading.

Carrie X

Self confidence the ugly ducking

As a kid I have always wanted to reach out and help with someone who like me felt like the ugly duckling. Since I began this blog so much has changed, I am a parent, got back into writing and followed my dream of always wanted to write a book, and I did. The first one being The Parenting Adventures, Pregnancy to the first 9 months, and is available on amazon.com under my married name, Carrie Challoner.

I have build a ways to not feel like the ugly duckling by working on myself. I want my son to be proud of me and my family and began doing running different events to raise money for charity. 

I came across life coaching and through discovering people like Tony Robbins, and I have changed my mindset. 

Last year I spent time in a Mentalhealth hospital and it really did help me a lot. Life got to much and I was unhappy of my life, because I felt like I was chasing dreams rather than following them. 

I was diagnosed as having psychosis, and hearing voices telling me different things about how I felt about myself and had what I can only describe a break down. Now I feel better than never and proud of what I have done with my life, for the first time. It has taken a lot for me to look at me in a different light, and now sleep better than ever, I exercise by walking and doing home workouts, reading books again and taking my son out to different places and no longer feels like such a struggle, and so I hope my blogs on this has helped you, and long may it continue. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

5 Ways to Live life to the full/New EBook on Building Self Confidence

So I never actually completed the writing of this blog post, so as I have a bit of free time to do so, I thought I would write it now.

Lets start by saying that I think we are already to let go of Lockdown and COVID, and have more social gatherings again, as I am missing the interaction of people, and I joked today doing my new Get Ready with me video for today, that I am so in need of a good Pub Lunch.

Its amazing how you can miss such things but I really am. Anyways, 5 Ways To Live life to the full, yes and with this Pandemic that struck us all, is a more of an opportunity to turn your life around and not allowing Lockdown stress you out. Use it as an opportunity to do things you would have never done if Lockdown had not hit us. 

Now I am not saying I am happy about not being able to go into my favourite non essential stores, but never allow it to restrict you, in living the life you have always wanted.

1. So I wrote a new EBook about Building Self Confidence talking about, How to learn about yourself and accepting yourself, and that is the first step, because if you are forever putting yourself down then you are never going to move on from that. You end up, and I sharing this on experience, going around in circles and never feeling like you are going anyway

A good way of doing this is to have a sort through your wardrobe, and go through passed photos of when you did feel good about yourself and display them and write down why you were so happy then, compared to now.

2. Be spontenious. So I remember when I was working up in London, and it was one of my friends birthdays, but it was on a Tuesday in the week, and so we met up for a few drinks, but because it was such a wonderful evening, no trouble or anything, and everyone was buzzing, we then went onto a nightclub and stayed out until three in the morning. Now I did something that was naughty I called in sick the next morning, so don't do that, but what made it a good evening, was that it wasn't planned at all, and it was one of the best nights I've ever had. 

3. Do something you though. So like, apply to be a contestant on a Quiz show, or do a Marathon. They can be life changing, and if you do it to rt you never do  raise money for charity, then it is more of an incentive to challenge yourself.

4. Look like a star. So if there is someone you admire, in terms of looks and how they carry themselves, then why not dress like a star yourself. I don't mean start putting lines of make up on your face like Adam Ant, which to be fair, was in, in the 80s but have fun with fashion and make up. There are make up tutorials on Instagram and Youtube. I am yet to discover Tik Tok, but it is on the agenda, so I will at some point, but just have fun with trying different styles of make up and clothes, so it gives a day a purpose.

5. Be with nature and the outside world. So, even in Lockdown it has still be worth, sitting in my local park to watch the world go by and why not take your work outdoors in the garden, so you have time with the outside world, instead of locking yourself away.

So honestly make the most of each day and do something different so you are living it, loving it and breathing it.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X

Building Self confidence with Parenting

Here is a new Building Self Confidence video, about Building confidence as a parent. It can be daunting aswell as exciting and so is good to be calm and less stressed, please check out my new Video below:

It is good to just be flexible as a parent and never stop them from being kids. It is important that you get to know parenting and your baby and not rush but blend more into it. 

Please see my new EBook about Having a Baby and Easy Parenting without the Stress for a Single Parent

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08ZC9HYL4/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Carrie+Lee+Holmes+having+a+baby&qid=1616069461&sr=8-1

I hope you find this blog helpful and many thanks for reading, 

Carrie L.M X

Building your confidence through singing and dancing

So it is Monday and I am writing this blog as I listen to a playlist via Youtube and I love getting on with my work singing and dancing in my chair. 

THAT IS THE LIFE PEEPS AND HOW i ROLL!

Now some may find it annoying, and soon I will be in a new home and starting a new life and when I am gone I am still gonna sing and dance as it helps me with my #mentalhealth, and it is good to put on some tunes and zone out, and it is great for easing tension and clearing the mind of cobwebs, just like walking. 

The good thing about singing and dancing is good for the confidence because you can do whilst your cleaning the house and when you are washing up, cooking dinner and just GET WITH IT! That is why I love music and singing as it is what has helped keep me going. 

Would you believe that when I was singing someone actually called a Ambulance, and I know this should be taken as a insult I actually found it funny, as I bet there are worser singers than me and YES THEY DID!

 

So there are groups you can join like the Rock Choir and I did go to a Adult community class in Hammersmith and Fulham and did Singing and drama and were great fun, and is a good way to meet new people and when I worked at Butlins I would always be singing and dancing in one of the bars and theatres on camp. It was so good after a days work, to let my hair down and just dance and sing the night away. 

Never be afraid as once you start it can be very addictive and you'll be surprised when you dance indoor or at a club, how many calories you burn. It is a god send, so put on those tunes and dance to your hearts content and sing you heart out.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie L.M X

P.S: All my blogs and videos can be found on my network site:

https://carriesblognetwork.squarespace.com

Working on my Confidence/Being kind to yourself

Hello and welcome! So this is the first of my Google blog posts I like to do each week and in this blog I am talking about Working on my confidence/Being Kind to yourself and I have even created a Youtube video. See Below:

Please do not think that I am in anyway using my low self esteem to promote my blogs, because that is not my intention it is to share my experiences and to help you see that if you too have low self esteem like I have, there are ways that can help you, but I do get that my advice is not for everyone. 

I find with confidence that it can be something that can drive you forward once you address the inner critic and by making changes, which are everlasting by days where you take care of yourself aswell as other people in your life, and do feel good activities, if you like to declutter, cook, read or like me writing.

I also use fitness too, and if I find that I have a lot of my mind to clear going for a brisk walk can do the trick, listening to good easy music and I have even and easy listening playlist too. See link here:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0AyektQNGDF-5OzYS9zulWwUE1XHPlIS

I have also create more life coaching videos too, and my recent one is about Victimisation which can course yourself to not be confident and that everything you do is being judged and held against you: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Afbd3LblfMQ&list=PL0AyektQNGDFmE8QBKFktqKMwZ2bswZoc

Confidence for me is "Learning to love yourself", "give myself credit and no more self doubting" or "Having more purpose in my life, by having good positive habits". 

It is not something that happens overnight and can take years. Well in my case but take or look back on photos and write down what you were feeling and talking about it, and your feelings can help with, letting go of the past that may be effecting your confidence still and taking yourself away and be in a place literally that makes you feel it is good to be you and good to be alive.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

P.S: All my blog posts and videos can be found on my network site:

https://carriesblognetwork.squarespace.com 

Not allowing insecurities to effect your children

Being a child who lacked a lot of confidence I am very well aware now as a parent that my insecurities I have about myself can easily transfer to my son and other children I want to have, as I want them to be super confident and have a drive that they are capable of doing whatever they want, and I am never going to stop them, because everyone deserves a life they wish for and a future that is out of this world. 

I want to be a supporter for all of my children and let them be who they want to be. I see my role as a guardian, support network and an open door to their hearts and help them should they have any worries and know without hesitation they can come to me for support and be a shoulder to cry on and be a carrier for their hearts. 

I have always been super paranoid about my weight and about how I come across and how I impact people and I am so glad that through my blogs and through my other work I have done as got me in touch with so many people who have helped me with seeing that I have no need to be unconfient. Everyone can be what they want and I will never take away my children's belief in wanting to make something that can be seen as unreachable and I want them to have a life where they can travel and where they can have a bunch of friends and one day a family of their own. 

I try not to dwell too much on my self criticism I often have, and have learned to fight against it and now can say that I am more happier with myself and more sure of myself. Last year and the year before were so tough that I am happy to still be alive and not made me sink but swim and grow further.

Kids can easily pick up when you are down and can sense when your anxious and worried too, and this can make them feel vulnerable and insecure. My son has had separation anxiety because at one point he kept wanting to sleep in my bed with me, I just don't always feel safe in doing this, but would give in as I could see that he was fearful of sleeping away from me and so let him sleep without needing to feel that type of fear. 

He was purposely at one point wetting the bed so I would change his bedding but looking at it now, it was because he would have nightmares and didn't want to be on his own. If a kid lashes out or wets the bed, try not to get cross as they often do this to communicate that they are worried about something and need your reasurrance and love. 

So I am very well aware of when I think low of myself as it does sneak in, I have a way of controlling it and I just will put on a bit of make up if it will make it better but don't want to be self obssessed which when you feel low of yourself, you can often feel. 

Kids want you to be you and I would have sometime just talking with them and open up to them so they will open up for you. 

If you don't ask a kid how they feel they won't often tell you, but their actions can speak out and can be a sign that they are feeling unhappy because they have sensed that you are.

Manhy thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

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