Body Confidence and look after your health

To build our confidence we have to help ourselves to become healthy, and make you happy. Giving your self some time to look after your skin and haircare. I like to treat myself to nice shower gels and perfumes but don't over do it, just the amount that makes me feel good about myself. 

Take supplements. I take Garlic, Vitamin D, Iron and multivitamin, because I kept feeling fatigue and I also take legal prescribed medication, for my mental health, but taking supplements can still help and make a different to what you need. 

Look after your skin. I love Skincare as I have suffered with heat rashes, heat lumps and dry peeling skin and can make me really self conscious, so I will take my make up off in the evening, as I would often leave it on, I don't wear make up everyday, because I like to allow my skin to breath, and so I don't wear make up everyday. I do use face creams, washes, scrubs and show gels, and night creams. 

I look after my hair and don't wash it everyday, but keep my hair hydrated by using refresher sprays and serums, and blow dry my hair after every wash. It has made a difference as in the summer I can get itchy flaky sculp so I take hair of that, as I love my hair. 

Doing these things along with healthy food, can make a huge difference. 

I am still doing a Life Coaching Programme "The Summer Project 2022", and so check out my main Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg and my website, https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com    

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Typical London Gal 

Becoming stronger that my confidence has turned a corner

There have been times where I couldn't bear looking at myself because it would break my heart of what I saw. I felt that I was disformed and would get upset when clothes shopping. So what has changed? Me!

I was hating these feelings and felt fed up of not liking myself. So what has changed? Me! 

Appearance isn't everything and I have a brain that works and I can walk and run, and could dance and it was doing things where I'd feel alive that helped build my confidence and it was reaching out to others to look at me and have their approval for me to feel good. 

I began to make good positive changes, like making an effort each day and put some make up on, would get fit rather than thinking about it and not moving, and now I am finally happy in my own skin. I can look in the mirror and I not bothered about wearing make up all the time and like being with myself and don't fed up of what I see. 

Life is full of challenges and accepting yourself is one of them. I don't want to be fed up with myself for anymore. It is draining and so I had to get a hold of myself. and make changes, like not sleeping in all of the time, not eating healthy and living by each amount of money I had earned and lost sense of myself.

I have had to get to know myself and who I truly am rather than being someone else for other people. You have to find that out. Who are you? What do you belief? and what is your style? 

I love being in my leggins and in summer found my love of shorts again. It is what helps me be me and not attracting other people, but I can look at myself and say "This is me and I am okay with that".

I have had to be strong and that has been the key to how I feel now. Of course I still get moments where I still avoid a mirror, but not so much. I like being me and am down to earth, and that is what I want people to see me as, not someone who is always giving myself a hard time, but when you accept yourself others will follow and that gives me such power, that we all are beautiful and unique and that is okay. 

Check out Mel Robbins book The High 5 habit, as this is brilliant method that can help your confidence too and be able to see the goodness in you and get rid of the bad. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

 

Understanding the mind and gaining control

I at the moment doing a Life Coaching Programme called "The Summer Project 2022" to help you have a better Summer and a better life, so please check out my blog linked here: https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com

What I will do is to add this blog linked to the above blog site as part of my programme, and to my Pinterest Pin to share whilst I do this project. https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/

So, this blog is all about Understanding the mind and gaining control, and to do that you need to sit down and spend sometime of where you are feeling now today, but also go through assets you have, example, you like your Living room but there is a room you hate going into because it may be messy and you are trying to avoid it and feel overwhelmed every time you go in there. I would avoid my bank account, but to gain control I now check it everyday and give myself a target now of how much I want to save each month and this has made me worrying about my finances a lot less. 

This can effect how we feel and our mind, as it makes us feel low because we can't get ourselves together to sort this room out or any area in your life you are wanting to ignore, but you want to get in touch with. 

I wrote a book about how to make one change a day in your life on amazon, and just making one a change can still make all he difference, rather than allow to dictate your feelings and your mind. 

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Things-Change-one-day-time-ebook/dp/B0916KDN9H/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3TL3CMAPUOVB0&keywords=EBooks+by+Carrie+Holmes&qid=1657702366&s=digital-text&sprefix=ebooks+by+carrie+holmes%2Cdigital-text%2C84&sr=1-2

The other thing to do is to separate items into categories, but if this is too much then just put one item in the box and just do one category at a time. If you not liking your appearance then check out your clothes perhaps they aren't your style and I find I do this, I go buy price rather than what benefit this item will have one me. 

If you feel slumped it is because you just need to do a makeover and revamp your closet. 

What gives you value? and what items and fashion suit you. If you can afford why not get a stylist and watch Trinny London and Melissa Murrell they do a lot of videos to styling and its that simple and the mind when it sees mess creates mess into your life but once you start gradually making changes can help the mind feel at piece and will get control of it, rather than feeling low because you life is chaotic, and not a good rhythm.

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Typical London Gal   

When your kids give you confidence and how we can learn from them

I have worked a lot on myself and I am writing many things about this and like sharing hoping that you as my audience and followers find it helpful and makes you feel better. When we lack confidence we can often feel like we are on our own, but no we are not. 

My son tells me that he loves me now, and I love it, and gives me such confidence because I feel me and my son have turned a corner in that he feels happy to share how he feels, and it is so endearing. I think its because you know they mean it, and not saying it because it is a new sentence they have just learned. 

He is so aware of what is around him and who is who in his life and when he calls me I get so touched about it and feel such comfort. I tell him everyday I love him and I want our relationship to be a good window for him and me to talk about things and be expressive. For a while I felt the relationship was being effected, because I'd want to be with me phone rather than spending time to play, and disappointed in myself in doing that, but I feared being a parent and so to escape I'd be looking on my phone, rather than playing with my son. 

How was I able to bond with Henry if I want to spend time bonding with my phone and blogs, rather than him? I now I leave my phone in my bag, and when he is with me, make sure I take it out of site and this has made a huge difference, because he will knock it out of my hand, to say, "Its my time not your phone" and this has been a education for me as kids live for now, not what happened yesterday or what is happening tomorrow but now, presently. 

Our insecurities can be passed on, but since spending time with my son, it has made me active, playing football, tennis and cricket, and pushed these feelings of low self worth better. 

I do write a parenting blog if you'd like to check it out, https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com  and I have books on parenting too, check them out on amazon.com, under my names, Carrie Challoner and Carrie Holmes. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Building confidents as a mum

Everything I do I doubt myself, and has become a habit. I share a lot about my life online, and I doubt this too. It is safe to say I am a doubter and proud about it, but know it something I progressively changing. 

I am learning to look after myself without feeling guilty that "I shouldn't be doing that as its selfish and being selfish is wrong". NO IT IS NOT! my gut tells me. I have learned your gut says a thousand things and I am learning to use it to stop the doubting. 

Thing about being a mum I thought I'd have it all sussed as I have looked after other peoples children, but it is totally different. There is no running away and passing the responsibility and it can fall on your shoulders and covered in pooh, and then phone rings, the door goes and its like "Why didn't anyone tell me?", "I never knew it will be like this", and I didn't. Yet I naturally loved my little boy and couldn't believe he had arrived and it took a while to sink it. I never had issues about bonding, but it was getting to know this little human and meant that I would have to get myself together. 

I have come to see I will always be doubting but I know how to handle it now and answer it, and that is by saying "I know what I am doing, and I know myself, and prove it to myself, and I have done that by setting goals for me and my son, and grow our relationship by sharing my love to him. He now tells me he loves me and it really does make my heart melt. So I feel that I have done alright and the doubt has become less. 

I can cook for my son, I can get him to read a book and can help get his homework done and be there on time when he comes home from school, and do practice affirmations and even have a notebook with them written down, and this has helped me a lot. 

I have a gratitude journal and go through what I am thankful for including how I feel about myself and I have changed a lot. I am no longer a stranger to myself, being a human being and a mum, and have more self belief in myself than ever before. 

So focus on what you can rather than what you can't do.

I have books on parenting and other topics on amazon.com under the names Carrie Challoner and Carrie Holmes, so if you'd like to read them then take a look.  

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X   

Feeling self Conscious during the summer

I get so worried over the summer when it comes to the way I look and feel, and I wrote a blog a long time ago about having bikini body, if I find it I will link it. I can't wear a dress without shaving my legs first and my armpits. I hate having body hair. The only place I like it, is when its on my head and so invest a lot of money on razors, and always wear flip flops because of hair growth on my feet and because I don't always paint my nails. 

I don't wear a bikini, but a swimming costume and with pair of cycling shorts because of body hair. If I could get it done I would have have laser treatment to get rid of my body hair and not have to worry about it. 

I have used fake tan before now, but it always looked patchy, and so I do try to spend time in the sun, but I have never been good with heat, and become hot and bothered. Not that I don't like summer, I do, as it like it when it gets dark later in the day. It does feel you have more of a day, yet it is always a battle of what to wear, because of feeling self conscious. 

My go to items are leggins and I do own some pairs of shorts but not a lot. I tend to wear these indoors and not outside, a lot. I would love to look good in a bikini, and have more swim wear. I remember as a kid when we would go to Menorca and many of the women we travelled with, would go topless, and admired this, as the woman's body shouldn't be nothing to hide, as we carry babies in ours and not something we should take for granted. I have had to work a lot with being body confident and accepting what I have.

For me it is about taking one step at a time, and going to invest in creating a more happiness with myself and find items that are flattering, and not feel bad in doing so. Listening to a lot of Life Coaches like Mel Robbins, Grant Cardone and Tony Robbins, to invest in myself and that is to be more summer confident. How about you do you feel the same. 

Please leave a comment below, and lets support each other, as often just that alone can help how we feel about ourselves and spend time in working on appearance, and what is going to make you happy. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X   

When life takes over and don't get enough done

When we create to do lists, it can be overshadowed by the things we haven't written or typed up. Life! Example your GP contacts you to have a consultation, like myself, because I have a whole in my heart have to have checks on my health, and these are life tasks that can stop us in our steps in getting our to do lists completed. 

Life will come before anything else and I had to put my schedule on hold because of my son a few weeks ago, had chicken pox's and so had to put my to do list on hold that week, and get some time in the evenings. The inner critic, can begin to talk to  you, in your mind, but I silence it by saying to it "I will get the items on my to do list completed, it just won't happen in that week because of life". 

Flexibility is a must for me, and even if it means doing it before bedtime, it will get done. I give myself a cut of time of 8 to 9pm, and then it is bed. Sleeping well is important, and having a stable routine can help too, as each night, I will shut my window, then pull down my blind and close my curtains to get myself ready for  good nights sleep.

I will put my night gear on and set my alarm for the next day. 

I make my lists for each day the night before and will schedule items on Sundays for the week ahead. 

I prepare myself, should this change because of life, like what days don't I have appointments on, and using google calendar to block schedule, and I go through my weekly plan using OneNote, but also write a written plan in a notebook and what items can be put on hold and be spread across the week and month. 

I set Quarterly goals, along with my days and weeks of what I would like to accomplish. 

Paying can effect our confidence, especially if you are on low income. I find spreading my money I spend out, helps and if I need to pay for an item that has broken and guarantee has ended, I have money to replace that item.

Technology can become faulty, and so it is good to have paper around, in case that happens and making a note of what I can do by hand, that I still get bits on my list completed. 

I will go through what I can do with my phone, what I can write on paper, until the device that has stopped working, is fixed, "That's if it can be", but that can stop us in our tracks and feel that we have accomplished nothing, and for me that can effect how I feel for the rest of the day or week. 

 Always check the guarantee on technology and if it can be replaced with no extra cost, then it is sense to take advantage of that. We can't help devices that stop working, but what we can control is on how we deal with it. If a site has an APP can be used, on any device, like writing I often will use google docs, rather than Word.  

I find that when devices stop working we tend to blame ourselves, and yet it is technology. It is often unpredictable. They are manmade, and so no item will last forever, in my experience, as I used to be a Customer/Technical Advisor for a manufacturer called, Philips and would help people use their Digital Boxes and products, and so, in doing this, technology will always break down and we aren't be blamed, as we buy items hoping that they will last a long time, but they never will. 

So, take away the pressure and get back to the to do list, once you've completed life tasks, and never beat yourself up over it, that is life.

I am doing a Life Coaching programme, that I have set up, called "2022 Project" so if you'd like to check out this content please go over to my site: https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com

I have also created videos too, as part of this programme, so go over to my main Youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X